Holiday spending pressure as a single mom
Being a single mother during the holidays is soooo sooo stressful. It’s the pressure to make Christmas “special” or I believe “expensive”. Some families get extras jobs just to get their child the toys they want. When I was a kid, my mother was a single mother but always got us lots of presents on Christmas. I have been really torn between the two ideas, not celebrating Christmas at all or buy nice, inexpensive gifts. I don’t believe more is better. I told my daughter this year we are not celebrating Christmas was are just celebrating Kwanza, she was ok with that as long as she got some type of gift. Recently, we both agreed we actually like celebrating Christmas so we are going to combined them both, our Christmas tree with Kwanza colors.
When it comes to spending, I decided to get all my family the same thing, that I make on my own, the only thing I would need to buy is picture frames. I’m keeping my spending very low and making each gift inexpensive and meaningful. I made a budget and I am going to stick to it, but I’m not going to let it stop me from giving presents because that is the best part, to be able to give gifts to you someone you care about. Giving thoughtfully not expensively. It still scares me some because I don’t want my daughter to think she is not special, that’s the pressure holidays does to us parents. Trying to keep up with the Jones.